“Annoyances” In Marriage That Are Actually Blessings in Disguise
What If Love Sounds Like a Distraction?
She thought she was being interrupted.
He only wanted to talk—during the movie. Again.
The remote paused in her hand. Her eyes rolled, lips pressed tight. Another scene ruined. Another sigh of silent resentment.
But here’s what no one told her:
That voice was the sound of covenant.
The Lie: “He’s annoying.”
The Truth: “He’s still choosing you.”
In a world where most men scroll instead of speak, where they invest in silence or strangers, the man who talks to you through the television static is not trying to ruin your peace, he’s trying to be part of it.
“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth.”
(Proverbs 5:18)
Most women have never been taught what real love looks like—not in their homes, not in churches, not in Christian prep schools or curated Instagram theology.
They know weddings. They don’t know covenant.
They know romance. They don’t know relentless presence.
The quiet, shameful truth?
Most women only realize what they had when it's gone.
By then, the house is cold. The couch is empty. The TV plays to no one.
He doesn’t talk over the show anymore.
He doesn’t talk at all.
What You Call “Too Much”…
Someone Else Prays For Nightly.
Yes, he talks during your favorite songs.
Yes, he tells stories you’ve heard before.
Yes, he buys things you didn’t ask for.
Yes, he touches you when you’re trying to sleep.
But here’s the hidden truth—
This is how a man loves who still sees you.
This is faithfulness in flesh.
This is what other women bury their face into pillows and cry for, clutching divorce decrees or autopsy reports.
You’re living someone else’s unanswered prayer.
But because no one ever told you what love sounds like, you labeled it “annoying.”
You called affection “inconvenience.”
You called pursuit “pressure.”
You called provision “control.”
You called his presence “too much.”
And all the while, your body was being loved.
Relentlessly. Faithfully. Daily.
But you missed it—
Because it didn’t feel like the pain you thought love was supposed to be.
Non Mainstream Truth
Your irritation isn’t about him.
It’s about your brain expecting neglect and interpreting connection as threat.
That’s trauma.
You’ve been trained to see his pursuit as a red flag.
To mistake his consistency for weakness.
To resent his presence because it doesn’t let you disassociate.
But here’s your pattern interrupt:
What you’re annoyed by today is what you’ll ache for in absence.
And some women never get what you’re resenting.
God’s Design Was Never About Comfort.
It Was About Covenant.
God loves us:
Steadfast. Repetitive. Daily. Undeserved.
Not grand gestures.
Just unfailing presence.
Sound familiar?
It should.
It sounds like him, talking through your show.
It sounds like him, asking you again what you want for dinner, or what you said.
It sounds like him, trying to hold you when you’ve turned away.
It’s not perfect.
But neither are you.
And yet… he’s still here. Still talking. Still trying.
The Truth:
You’ll ruin the very thing your soul cries out for
simply because no one ever told you it might look like this.
You thought love would feel like fireworks.
But love sounds like his voice over the TV,
like his footsteps when you hoped for silence,
like him interrupting your scrolling because he still wants your eyes.
So Ask Yourself One Final Question:
What if you’re not annoyed—just untrained?
What if everything you’re tempted to resent…
is the exact proof that he’s still showing up?
That he hasn’t given up?
That God, in His mercy, has given you more than most ever receive?
“And I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness, and you shall know the LORD.”
(Hosea 2:20)
So maybe…
Next time he talks over your show,
turn the volume down.
Look at him.
And listen like it’s the voice of someone who still thinks you’re worth talking to.
Because it is.
And he does.